Nov 11 2008
Young Love
There is something so special and sacred about young love. Unlike adult love, young love allows us to think solely with our hearts. Remember the first time you fell in love? That first person to make you feel that feeling you’ve never had before and you were never sure how to describe it? Naïve love is what I like to call it. We jump right into this feeling completely unaware of the outcome. I believe now as adults we begin to develop love differently or at least we try to. I know that love is the one emotion we cannot control. But when we compare young love to adult love it’s so unbelievably different and just point blank not the same.
Yes, love is love and to be able to go back and experience that feeling the first time around again would be the most amazing thing. You have no fears, no negatives (Yet!), just feelings that flow naturally, which is why our first loves never work out. When you’re not experienced enough in one area, that new emotion can over run you instead of fill you. Those new thoughts, concerns and insecurities are too much to handle at times so you find yourself screwing it all up because you had no idea how to approach it all. Young love is so precious and untainted. It’s the one thing no person can ever take away from you. It’s the mere image of perfection in its own way, simply the one raw emotion that will change a person FOREVER. Young love challeneges a person to fight for their heart. These are the type of experiences that lead to screen plays and books written all around the world. (Romeo and Juliet to name just one famous example!) Some say when a boy hits puberty or a girl begins her first menstral cycle is when they grow up. I say it’s when we learn of love for the first time a young girl and young boy grow into young women and men. Because whether they know it or not, their lives have transitioned forever.
But when young love is not enough to make it through the transitions of life, you find that the one person you loved the most is going to be the one person you’ll never have and is why divorce is so common with young adults. We jump into the thought that it will last forever and no one understands what you feel and never will. You almost become clouded with the idea that every person is against you when they try to explain love to you and what it takes to make it work. But when the years pass and the honeymoon phase is over, you learn you were not wrong for loving a person with all your might, you just realized that maybe, just maybe you didn’t know it all after all. I hope I am not losing anyone here. My thoughts can kind of run wild in my mind but not translate correctly into word format.
As we age and realize it takes much more than love to make a relationship last, we begin to pay attention to the basic fundamentals the next time around, such as compatibility, family values, in many cases religion, financial security, common interests and many other things. So as adults I can say at least on my part that although I have experienced three amazing loves in my life nothing will ever be as precious as my first, I also believe nothing will be as special when I marry my soulmate. Today I look for the traits of my lifetime partner, now knowing that love is not the only thing that can or will bind me with someone forever I take what I can of myself and hope to find the same in a man.
There is nothing like young love. Too bad it doesn’t always last forever like we once believed…
Much love,
Michelle joy Phelps
